Get to know the efficient strategies and try them out to help you maintain a peaceful and struggle free private life.
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Being in a generation where things are available just with smartphone in your hand gives you a life easier than ever, yet it’s quite more difficult to make peace more than ever with what we have. If you take a moment and consider on this, the reasons are very specific and clear: facilities we get today have increased the competition, insecurities and comparisons among people everywhere. You are watching what other people are showcasing right in front of your eyes every time on social media and this in turn gives you assumption of how cool others are doing and what you need to do to be accepted by that society. Impact of such things are subconscious but so intense that it makes almost everyone a victim of the stories that may not exist in the first place.
What will you get to know?
While creating your personal life hassle free is going to be a life long practice to pursue, what measures you take this way and how you manage it in the long run is what you should know about.
This article will look out on some measures to be followed and taken care of to keep a good balance on making your private life peaceful and stress free. While pursuit of the some may be challenging but it's good to keep attempting and improving rather than mess up your private time with inappropriate stuff.
1. Identify The Causes:
Before we move further to the steps, take a minute, relax yourself and think about it: What is disturbing your private life most?
The reason could be one or more, depending upon your own experience of life so far. And why this point is important because to cure, one must know what is defective and causing the issues that makes you feel unwell.
The reason could be many including common ones like - lack of work life balance, society related issues, or even family and other relationship issues or any. The main purpose of knowing them is that you can focus on making sure your practices are aligned to fix those areas majorly.
2. Practice Mindfulness:
We stay anxious when things go wrong and we try to make it right or wait for it to be right. This is a very natural behaviour of us humans whenever we pass odd situations we don’t enjoy at all and it continues to degrade. As a response, we assume the solutions to rectify it to put an end to it as soon as possible. But when even that doesn’t work out, we start to get into it more than it’s acquired time and that’s where our peace begins destructing.
There may be external pressures that make us continue with the effort even after knowing it’s not in our hand. We are triggered that way assuming the worst outcomes the situation may bring and your private life is possibly going to be disturbed that way.
Being both physically and mentally in the present is something called Mindfulness. We lack mindfulness in such circumstances because we try to take control of the current situation and future (for trying to end it sooner). Understanding that you should stop trying overcome such things with extra time and effort is a good practice to be ready for mindfulness. Once you accept that and let things flow in their own without taking it very seriously and leaving your fears behind for its end result, you will encounter peace and freedom within you.
Even though it is not always easy to leave the situation on their own and make peace, practising mindfulness is what will help you do so.
3. Say No Whenever Required:
Its easy to reject things and say no where reactions don't matter but it's quite difficult to say no where reactions on that may have significant impacts on your relationships or career. Maintaining good relationship with co-workers, society and friends is a necessity for anyone to keep things smooth in their professional, social or personal life.
But as life happens and fluctuates, our mental peace and personal time may become cost of maintenance for these relationships if you are not able to say no. Saying yes to the things where you are not accountable or things are out of your limit in the moment directly gives other people access to your limits and private space.
And if you are sacrificing your private space again and again because saying no will put those relations in a vulnerable state which in turn can make things hard for you in professional life or in your social space, you are possibly assuring your private space at risk which soon results in zero work life balance, mental peace issues (obviously as you are doing things over and over again you can't say no to). Influence of these issues can directly reflect in your personal relationships, happiness and other related things.
So it is very important to keep things simply straight and say no whenever required. After all, no such profession, society or relationships should overtake your peace and personal life.
4. Accept No & Rejections:
Just as saying no and rejecting requests are important, the same way hearing no and accepting rejections is. It helps you understanding others point of view and your reality check as well. When you are not comfortable to rejections and listening to no, anyone discarding you can put you in a worried state. Accepting people's no and understanding it is what gives you clarity on what made them discard you which helps you deal with them.
We are different than others with some good and bad qualities. It's logical that our bad qualities or week points can push people to reject us which is fine. We just have to figure out and see whether we can make it better ahead if the rejection was fair otherwise should make peace with their decision and continue with our own stuff.
5. Make Real Friends:
Keeping aside our professional life, who we are surrounded by closely does matter in peace. If your inner circle includes genuine and real people, you will manage to deal with unfair circumstances with their support. But if it includes those with status consciousness and purposeful people who are only attracted to you when you are doing good, you may lead to bad experience in your private life. Personal life in terms of relations and friends should be hassle free from competition, image consciousness, fakeness and things like that so you can feel emotionally secure to express yourself on any even or odd circumstances.
Imagine if you are having a tough time in your workplace which made you exhausted and if you are being conscious even in your private space whether you should talk about it to your friends or will they judge you. This is equally worse as letting your professional life take over private life. You should review the type of people you are allowing to in your life if so. Because people we spend time with are essential part of how peaceful your life can be.
Building healthy connections is a vital trait to secure your happiness and peace. Thus, you have to be careful while coming into relationship, making friends so they can push you up and help you whenever you need it.
If you want to know more
These measures surely going to help maintain your peace amid stressful situations if you follow them and continue putting them into practice. You have to be patient through the process as changing habits and mindset takes time. After all, peace is what everyone needs in the end.
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